Roles People Live

We see the following roles in ourselves and others to a lesser or greater degree. They are some of the best reflections of what we are referring to when we talk about ego imbalance. We assume these roles when ego is speaking prominently in our lives and ego energy is becoming significantly imbalanced. We often have difficulty recognizing these roles but others can readily observe them in our thoughts, words and behaviors. For a more in-depth discussion and understanding of these roles, read the third book in our trilogy, The Two Voices Within.

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The Big Lesson

It has been said that life is a huge classroom that provides countless opportunities for us to learn and grow. Often, life teaches us particular lessons that we have failed to learn. All of the people, places, events and experiences that we encounter are our teachers, and each offers myriad opportunities to learn about the power, flexibility and vulnerability issues of our ego energy. They occur to change us in the ways we need to learn and grow. Looking outward at life is meant to help us look inward to find ourselves and God. This is the big lesson.

Even so, we often look but don’t see, hear but don’t listen, touch but don’t feel, and think but don’t know. Frequently, we miss opportunities to learn and grow when we get caught up in the “little picture” that our unconscious, imbalanced ego is showing us. When we lock into the little picture, we miss the big lesson. When we get fixated on what is going on “out there”, we can’t see the “big picture” of what’s going on “in here.”

If life is a classroom, we are the subjects and the students. We are to seek the big picture that life is serving to reveal. Life is the little picture that egoic issues of power, flexibility, or vulnerability are revealing themselves within. These lessons are intended to take us beyond the little picture into the big picture through understanding God and ourselves.

You may be asking, “Aren’t we here to make the world a better place?” We are, but that begins by making all of us better people, by becoming fully connected with ourselves and God. When you know who You are, what God Is, and the Great Gifts you have been given, then you are ready to change the world for the better. Then you are ready to be Buddha, Muhammad, Krishna, Moses, Gandhi, Mother Teresa or Jesus.

A Different View of Ego

Our view of ego differs significantly from what you may have encountered from other writers and experts on the topic, particularly Eckhart Tolle and Wayne Dyer. These differences are important, as they provide a foundation upon which a healthier view of humanity rests, along with its potential to be healed where necessary, and the opportunity to experience a higher level of consciousness in which our humanity and Divinity are working in concert. This is the essence of EgoSpiritualism.

• Ego has no awareness of itself and how it impacts your life, but you can develop this awareness.
• Ego does not act with intention as it does not possess an intellectual quality.
• Ego has no awareness of God or works to oppose God, but it can undermine your spiritual consciousness and relationship with God.
• Ego does not require you to be free of it but to embrace your capacity to bring it to healthiness with the light of human and Divine Truth.
• Ego can respond to the use of your mind and reality based thought that can be used in your transformation to ego consciousness; healthy, balanced ego energy; and deeper spiritual consciousness.
• Ego energy can be healed by you with ego medicine that consists of reality based thinking and relevant ego awareness.
• Ego is part of your wondrous, beautiful human nature that you can utilize to work with the challenges of your physical, human existence.
• Ego does not dissolve when you become aware of it but can be managed and enhanced via your capacity for ego awareness.
• Ego does not have to be your “enemy” but can be your friend in the service of God.
• Ego can be healthy, sane and work with the sanity of your Divine Self.
• Ego can serve as an instrument for bringing you into peace, joy and love.
• Ego can be in the present and is not resigned to your “living” in the past or preoccupied with the future.

Ego energy which is healthy and balanced can help you to live in satisfaction and is not resigned to seeking more, being better than, always needing to be right, taking everything personally, engaging in selective perception and distorted interpretations, confusing opinions and viewpoints with facts, or needing to find enemies.

We Each Have “Two Voices”

“Two Voices” reside within each of us: Ego and Spirit. The one you listen to will profoundly impact your life for better or worse. It will be reflected in the way you work with others, your close relationships, your ability to love yourself, achieve your potential and know your purpose, grow your mind, deal with change and manage conflict, cope with stressors and stress, and live with genuine happiness. An unconscious, imbalanced ego often shouts loudly through issues of power, flexibility or vulnerability and drowns out the softer, steadier voice of Spirit. The major challenge we face as humans is recognizing how our own distinctive unconscious egoic voice is drowning out the voice of Spirit.

Traditionally, spiritual mentors have offered messages suggesting that the voice of the Ego must be extinguished in order to hear the voice of Spirit. We offer a different approach, a strategy that says we can soften our egoic voice by bringing its power, flexibility and vulnerability into balance. This can be achieved through the use of ego medicine, which involves the development of ego awareness and the use of ego-related reality based thinking. This strategy can transform the ego from being your enemy to being your friend. It creates a partnership within you that allows you to hear the voice of Spirit and, in doing so, opens the door to EgoSpiritualism—a consciousness in which our healthy ego self has the ability to merge and unite with our Divine Self.

Ego Therapy: A Method for Healing Your Whole Self, along with EgoSpiritualism: Awakening to Your Human and Divine Self and The Two Voices Within: Balancing the Energies of Ego and Spirit to Enhance Your Life, describes the process of transformation and the path we must walk to bring about ego consciousness, balance within our ego energy, and transcendence into deeper spiritual consciousness—a process that leads us to know who we truly are, what God Is, and the Four Great Gifts we have been given.

Who We Seek to Serve

We seek to serve a diverse population of individuals, including laypersons, spiritual seekers and healers. Some common threads running through these groups: the presence of ego energy that needs to be healthier, wrestling with the challenges of the key life areas mentioned on the home page, and a desire for them and others to live a better life. Beyond these commonalities, each is coming at the growth process from a different perspective and set of needs. The following descriptions integrate these commonalities and differences in conjunction with some of the core ideas involving our mission and vision.

Laypersons

We seek to serve those persons who are experiencing various degrees of psychological difficulty and who want a specific way to undertake self-improvement that speaks directly to their lives. There are tens of millions of people suffering from problems of living and various degrees of mental illness. These range from the normative problems that afflict most people—involving work, family, relationship and financial concerns to more pathological disturbances that make life miserable for themselves and often others.

One’s ego and egoic energy are often at the core of that misery and suffering, but for different people in different ways. This requires an approach to ego that is concrete, diverse, comprehensive and directly connected to your life. Our trilogy leaves no one out or left behind. Look closely into the mirrors of the ten key life areas with the knowledge of ego we present, and you will come to know your egoic energy and the ego medicine you will need to take in order to heal it. This healing will also make the Divine energy within your being more available to you.

Spiritual Seekers

We seek to serve those who are actively seeking to cultivate spiritual awareness and heighten spiritual consciousness. For many, this can be a difficult journey, as issues within our humanity often distort, disturb or defeat our efforts to live the best version of ourselves and recognize God. These issues are rooted in an unconscious, imbalanced egoic energy and keep us lost.

Unfortunately, many of the offerings put forth within the Body-Mind-Spirit, Spirituality, Mindfulness and New Age teachings fail to fully recognize this aspect of the journey and struggle. Brilliant and powerful messages about spiritual awakening and consciousness are often not enough to deliver many from the issues within their humanity. These messages often only cast ego in a dark, negative light, as an entity to be overcome by spiritual awakening alone.

There is a need for equally brilliant and powerful messages about ego awakening and ego consciousness. A person cannot “leap” from imbalanced egoic unconsciousness into spiritual consciousness. The vision and message contained within our trilogy—Ego Therapy, EgoSpiritualism and The Two Voices Within—speak to the needs and struggle of those who are seeking to awaken spiritually and remain awake.

Healers

We seek to serve mental health professionals and metaphysician practitioners who are intimately involved in working with the ego and egoic energies of the clientele they serve. Each can readily recognize the roles listed within this website and brought to life within the words of Ego and Spirit in The Two Voices Within: Balancing the Energies of Ego and Spirit to Enhance Your Life. As time has progressed, practitioners from each of these areas have come to better know how “the other half lives.”

Mental health professionals have come to know the importance of spiritual wellness in a person’s progress and adjustment. Metaphysical healers have come to recognize the significant obstacle that ego can represent in their efforts to help people awaken spiritually and remain awake. To the credit of Eckhart Tolle and Wayne Dyer, they have brought ego into the discussion of spiritual awakening; however, there is a need for an even greater refinement of our understanding of ego and egoic energy—a refinement reflected within the pages of this website, each of our books and our workshop. This refinement can be used to complement your knowledge and skills within your healing efforts. It can provide you with an incisive awareness of the human and Divine energies at work within the people you serve.

Our Life’s Work

We have had a wonderful life together filled with great joy and happiness, as well as the bumps and bruises that come with any long-term committed relationship. These experiences have enabled us to serve as each other’s mentor, sharing what we’ve learned within our respective personal and work lives. This unique opportunity is the foundation for the synergy reflected in our “Ego and Spirit” message and our life’s work.

Along the way, we have taught each other about the human and Divine energy that profoundly shapes a person’s life for better or worse. We have also taught each other about ego unconsciousness and spiritual unconsciousness, which is often manifested when our humanity and Divinity are polarized. Finally, we have learned from each other that human and spiritual healing can occur when ego energy is brought into balance and we truly know that God Is—Love, Life, Energy and You.